I’ve heard my fair share of lame lines, but one of them is definitely unique to Japan and frequently used by western men here:
"I can go to Roppongi and get any girl for a one night stand, but look, why am I here with you? I want more too. I don’t want meaningless sex!”
So let's just get on with it and get down to business? Should I feel obliged to provide lots of meaningful sex simply because you go through all the trouble dinning with me even though we go Dutch?
We now live in the instant age. We drink instant coffee in the morning, eat instant noodles for lunch, and have instant love at night. It’s a fast moving world. Screw love and romance. Let’s take the shortcut to the bedroom (when in) or bathroom (when out).
Does the guy who pressures a girl into sex actually wonder if she is enjoying it? And does the girl who gives into pressure later resent it and stop seeing the guy even if he can care less? What gives these guys the sense of entitlement and think they can get whatever they want, whenever they want? Being white, or being rich, or both?
Seriously, how many dates should you go on before you expect to have sex? Personally I don’t expect, because it’s not something you sit down and plan for. The number of dates doesn't really matter either. But it’s essential to establish a good and solid connection first. And if you don’t have time for that, well, good bye and good luck.
Because, like you said, you can get any girl you want in Roppongi. You don’t need me.