Monday, January 16, 2012


Many of my friends use dating websites to find the love of their lives. Some lucky ones have actually succeeded and got married this way. I don’t know how they managed that. All I see is red flags after red flags in people's profiles, for example:

(1) 6-month premium membership. Now how do they know 3-month basic membership won’t be enough?

(2) In search of an open-minded person. They are married.

(3) No photos, or have a photo but wear sunglasses, hat or both. They are in a “complicated” relationship.

(4) Photos showing too much skin. Is this the meat market now?

(5) Photos with a puppy. They are not cute enough, so they need a puppy in their photos.

Special warning: there is a photo with a gorgeous guy half kneeling down on the lawn and a Labrador puppy next to him. It’s a scam. I’ve seen this photo used by many different names.

(6) Opening line is “Hi ladies.” Notice the plural?

(7) Many grammatical mistakes. How can you communicate with each other? Sign language?

(8) “I am educated.” Arrogant bastards. They will make you feel like a Philippine maid.

(9) “I want a clean and thin woman.” They want sex. Clean sex.

(10) Promise to reply to every inquiry or have their email addresses skillfully and sneakily listed. They are desperate.

(11) Occupation is “other.” They are jobless. 

(12) "Insincere people need not reply." They are still struggling with their emotional baggage.

(13) "Willing to relocate to different countries." What's wrong with their lives there? What you mean to them is only a visa to come and live here.

There must be more. But gee, we really have to try to think positively, don’t we? 


Grinning said...

Nice! I think you mostly nailed it. The disingenuous ways that these predators attempt to glorify their prospects are not too hard to spot, for someone that can read between the lines. You said it best when you said, "be honest." I used a dating website. I used my real picture, bald head and all. I spoke clearly what I was looking for. Marriage, children, and companionship. I got married. Go figure.

MasadaVT said...

Perhaps I am naive, however, here is another perspective;

1) I have a "premium" membership. This is because I can not initiate email without one, and most women do not get a premium membership because they expect the man to initiate :)
2) Perhaps they just seek someone who does not have rigid and inflexible views about life and love? As one woman put it; "I want a man with an open mind, because when we are single for a while we get set in our ways and a relationship requires flexibility to understand that not everyone acts exactly as we want them too, at the exact time that we want them to.". Sounds like wisdom to me.
3) Maybe they are not very confident with their appearance and feel that women would pass them by based on looks alone, and so hope that their "mind" will attract someone before they get turned off by their ugliness lol
4) See above; not everyone is confident.
5) Well, it is (hopefully) more than one person who reads their profile. "Hi Lady" would sound kinda weird :)
6) I guess I can't make many excuses for people on this one; if you are making many grammatical mistakes in your native language, then you are on your own! lol
7) Perhaps they just would like to differentiate themselves from "the pack" and would like a woman who appreciates an educated man.
8) Well, just like #6, can't make many excuses for that lol! Not a lot of class in such a statement, though to be fair, how many people want to date someone who is fat and dirty, woman or man? ;)
9) Perhaps they just want a prospective woman to feel at ease that they won't be just ignored outright if they are willing to take the first step. Rejection hurts, even online.
10) I could easily list my job as "other" and it would be quite accurate. There is no classification for Entrepreneur.

professor usagi said...

sorry, I'v made some changes to this post and added a bit more too. so the numbers in the comment don't really fit now. ooops...